We lose track of ourselves when we put others above us. I tend to be the type of person who is either all or nothing. I’ve jumped and fumbled one too many times, which leaves emotional scars for us. Sometimes, being disrespected hurts our ego. “It is what it is” should be the mentality, but how do some people become that way? I wasn’t always like that. I don’t think I am the best role model for this, but I am learning as I am going through the turmoil. I know that hard work will always pay off, one way or the other. It’s also easy to fall into our emotions, and I’ve learned that life is a game. Some play for the short term and others for the infinite. Every decision you make in life will have an effect. Everything that you do is a gamble. One of my weaknesses is that I am very impatient and impulsive. There are times where I don’t think thoroughly about all aspects. When it comes to relationships, it’s all or nothing. I’m beginning to realize that I’ll never let anyone close enough to hurt me, or men will just want me for sex. Really, that’s all it is. Women are in competition with one another. Not all, but most. My friends and I uplift each other, but you don’t find people like my friends.
I’ve been disrespected to my face, a ton. Remember, no matter how nice you are to people, they will always be themselves. The best way to combat that is to treat them how they treat you. I don’t believe in killing them with kindness. UNLESS I am in public, then I’ll be on my best behavior. I am generally very kind and genuine to my friends, but most will not be able to talk to me unless it’s through my friends. It’s a guard that I put up. Remember, I was not the mean girl growing up. I was the girl who bullied and made something out of herself. Not only am I resilient, but everything I’ve been through has made me scary when I’m upset. Crying is one thing, but anger is another.
So, how do I use this for my power?
Remind myself who I am:
Everyone has a purpose here. What is your purpose to be here? Who are you doing this for? If you have no idea, start off by creating an alter ego. Write down your weaknesses and then write the opposite. Those strengths will be your alter ego. Who would they embody? What would be their best contributions? Are they fit? Disciplined? Kind? Successful? Talented? What would their day look like? What type of life do they live? Give it a name. Think… the optimized version of you. I am always battling myself for a reason. However, it’s a good kind of pressure.
New affirmations:
Now that you have your alter ego, tell yourself ten good traits you want in the mirror. I call these mirror spells. Be careful with these. I’ve gotten over my head with these before. At least do them once a day. I did them in the morning. I don’t do my affirmations as much anymore. Now, I no longer need to fake it. You can feel my confidence when I enter a room. At first, it felt weird to talk to myself in the mirror, especially when I used to be so scared and insecure. Mine were: I am strong. I am successful. I am beautiful. I am humble. Speak well of yourself because they’re spells. I don’t do black magic like people would think, due to jokes. I am capable of it, but I’m more into healing and manifesting.
Write down new goals or old goals
Write down goals that you want to work on or that you want to achieve. Make a board on Pinterest and look at it every morning. Why check for a text from a person who doesn’t even want you? Worry about your goals. Go straight for them. I couldn’t care less if men call me boring for always chasing my goals, but in the end, you only have yourself. No one lives your life for you!
Start writing down a routine, water intake, diet, and workout. If you have a good body, skin, hygiene, and money, you already have more than 50% of others. Gear yourself to put yourself first. If you don’t like something, make small goals to achieve it. People will always talk, but it doesn’t matter because you’re always going to be attractive, paid, and have an amazing aura. Worry about things you can actually change.
Distract myself until I am successful and over it. I work around 18-20 hours a day. I think at times it can include the gym too. Also, keep yourself aligned with God or something you believe is bigger than all. I meditate, journal, manifest, and go to the gym. These things are important. Keep yourself busy with good habits because eventually everything will fall into place for you.
I started life a lot later than others but I am very quick. Once you’ve implemented these habits into your daily. You won’t have to pretend because you’ll be the most optimal version of yourself. This isn’t just geared for a breakup, heartbreak but in general. Keep your goals in an arms distance. Live your best life. Anything this possible.
Love,
Kim 😉
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