I’ve watched too many women like Cardi B, Catherine McBroom, and other women get treated so bad by men. However, the Law of Detachent doesn’t only apply to partner relationships, it can apply to friends and family. I’ve been told that I am cutthroat and cold blooded, if I don’t get what I want out of people. It just means that boundaries are upheld and learning how to navigate and hone my own power. As you should too, once you begin to notice the red flags and disrespect, most people will tell you to not take it personal. However, for me, initially, since I’m not perfect. I will take it personal enough to give me the ick, and help myself think logical. Toxic, right? …. *pause*
🎀😊 HI, you can call me Kim.
WELCOME TO DETACHMENT 101 ✨
I will be your teacher on this blog to help you level up with the wisdom that I’ve gained from my decisions in life.
LET’S START:
Don’t you think you’ve been the nice person for a bit too long? I don’t think it’s fair for you to sacrifice your boundaries to feed someone’s ego. Your time is your money. We only have so much here, since it’s relative. Do you think your purpose in life is not to evolve? Life in general is evolved around growth and evolution. So, when you’re closing doors, you’re opening and making room for new beginnings. The unknown will be an exciting enough adventure to help you forget.
Enough rambling,
Take notes, because I learned to cut off my own mother officially from my life at age 12. I have not spoke to her since. Mind you, I also learned to play the game in my last relationship of almost ten years. I was detached at year 3, but still held on when I felt absolutely nothing.
Steps:
Make a list of what bothers you, the disrespect, the toxicity
Learn to become an alchemist: meaning, learn to transform your anger, sadness to something that’s beneficial for you. They get scared when you begin to level up. The Law of Action. Not everyone deserves your energy.
Focus on your upgrade in life. Shera777 would tell you to date a rich guy (if you’re getting out of a relationship) in my opinion I would only do that if he’s willing to invest in you, your business and cares about you. It’s a tit for tak. I hope you’re picking up what I’m putting down!
Don’t look back after leaving or cutting people off. Remind yourself that the disrespect is not worth coming back. My sister taught me that your true power is Silence. If anyone burns a bridge with you; you need to block it. They can’t burn a bridge if it didn’t even exist to you. She taught me to never underestimate a powerful woman.
This leads to controlling your emotions, never let your emotions control your level of activity in life. Even if your heart is hurting or you feel betrayed. Keep going, even when you’re wounded.
Don’t let anyone run game on you. If you keep forgiving people, they will devalue you, because you devalue yourself enough to let someone treat you with disrespect. Would they treat their parents or loved ones like that? Even if they did, why would you even let yourself get into that predicament? You’re not living life to be walked on. You deserve more.
Your upgraded version of yourself to will be their karma. I used to cry over the girls my last would cheat on me with. I promised myself that I would become a model, similar to those girls and have a huge booty. However, he will never be able to have access to who I am now. (Not that he would want to, he’s taken & I’m happy for him)
Once I leave. I am done. Relationships, family and friendships. You don’t need to let everyone have access to your aura. Especially, if you’re a healer.
Journal: I sound like a broken record but I have so many journals it’s insane, it’ll give you some clarity to write everything down. I’m a visual learner so, I’m constantly writing things down, and strategizing.
It takes practice to cut people off, trust me. I’ve been in situations where my sister and I stopped talking. It ripped my heart into pieces but we mended it. We’re back and even stronger as a family. Crazy part. Is that we both worked on healing.
Remember, you have the entire galaxy and an immense amount of opportunities. Live life, happily, and you’re only in this body once.
Put yourself first. Winners always have to be selfish in the beginning. We sacrifice time, and end up so lonely but knowing that we’ve made something big of ourselves. Keep in mind, when one door closes, another opens. When things feel horrible, it means better is coming your way.
Keep your circle small, if there is a small feeling of your gut that you can’t trust someone. There do is a reason why. That’s why, I keep people at a distance. Listen to your intuition, keep them close but not close enough to hurt you. Anyone can turn on you. So, always keep that in the back of your head. You really only have yourself.
Don’t get revenge, time will unfold everything. The Law of Karma.
Start creating new hobbies, learn a new skill, something to keep your mind off.
Start by telling yourself it is what it is.
Find the reason why you’re attached to this person? What wounds do you have that’s keeping you on a hold to someone that hurts you?
Power is silent, and silence is a LOUD answer. That’s why most successful men I know, are very low key. They’re happy and have nothing to prove.
Play the same game, or even do it better. Learn patterns: make them rely on you, and when you’re ready to leave. You’ll have a plan, along with being detached. (If you’re in a toxic relationship)
Realize that, God or the universe has your side, cutting people off can be a blessing. The disrespect was not, but everything good comes in when you’re able to vibe high. You don’t need someone draining your energy.
I’ve cut people off, and I wished I did earlier because my life was gifted with a ton of abundance that I held myself back from.
Realize that, their next move does not matter. Let them be themselves and you, stay in your own lane. Most people don’t have enough discipline to learn and improve themselves. They will eventually dig themselves into a hole, and you’ll be on another level where people can’t even reach you.
Your silence will be the killer of their ego, since you’re not giving them a reaction. Nonetheless, don’t even let them have access to your growth. Most people want to stick around to keep tabs on you. Cut it off. They no longer exist to you anymore. & it’s okay, wish for the best and goodbye. Focus on your goals, and end game.
It’s okay to outgrow people, and it’s okay for them to outgrow you. There’s people in life that are not meant to be forever but you did learn a lesson from them. We meet everyone for a reason.
Forgive yourself for your decisions. I realized how stupid I was for letting people have control or access to me, but told myself that I will learn from this and value myself. Uphold higher standards for myself. I played myself the most in the end.
Remember, what you want is not what you always need. Learn to be patient and delayed gratification. Be aware of what you think, and energy you’re putting your thoughts into. Manifestation starts with a thought, so the less you think of betrayal from family, friends or significant other. You will have more clarity.
Don’t expect anything from anyone, and always look both ways, and be aware.
Terms and Laws
LAW 16
Use absence to increase respect.
Too much of something will lose value
STOICISM (women that understand this concept always win)
Prioritize positive and calm environments. Individuality, self respect, and your connection with God is the utmost important.
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