How does a woman like me become so nonchalant and calm under pressure? The world can seem like it’s crashing down, and well. Truly, it is. However, one thing to take into consideration is that it is all perception.
Life will not always become an easy road to drive on. At times, I tend to see life as a hike, there’s different levels to the top. We don’t get to choose the mountain we climb (life) however, there’s a bottom and a top. While you’re hiking the mountain the toughest part is being in the middle, because you truly can’t see how far up you’ve gone, and it’s too late to go back down. It’s harder to climb up a mountain rather than go down. It’s truly on you, whether you want to quit or not.
There’s many events in life that we cannot change. Like, a car crash, getting sick, and how people treat us. You can only worry about what you can control. The moment you begin to overtly question and dwell, not only does it lower your vibrations but you begin to worry about things that no longer matter that can hinder you. I’ve been known for, “rolling with the punches”. Example, my ten year relationship or moving to Los Angeles so abruptly. I was supposed to move with friends but I ended up in Los Angeles on my own. I sold my car, quit my corporate job, and side hustle. Even crazier, I left my family behind because I was running away from someone. This year was the toughest year of my life, especially after my heart attack at 27, and my life nearly being destroyed at 27. I’m still 27 as I am writing this.
Crying, pity, and anger will not fix anything. The whole point was that, I know that life has been really screwed up to me, but without the trials and tribulations I wouldn’t have the wisdom that I do now. There’s another Buney out there that’s going through poverty and getting bullied. There’s another child that was in my shoes and maybe my story will help someone.
Focus on the things you can control. Everything outside of your control is out of your power.
You can plan for the future.
Where do you want to be? What are the next steps to get there? Who do you need to meet? What type of person do you want to become?
If xyz, did not pan out? What’s the next solution? If you don’t know the solution, what’s truly the problem? Ideally, what would be the opposite of the problem (usually the solution) then, make steps.
If you keep yourself working for a long term goal, you will eventually get where you want to be in life. Remember, character is not something that can be bought. It is truly earned. The qualities in life that are free, most do not have anymore. We live in a fast paced superficial generation where people no longer possess quality traits. Those that know and understand value will find value in those traits such as integrity, loyalty and honesty. Money will bring out the ugly in people, so when you have it all. Spirituality is the next thing that is being dived into but having a community of people you trust feels ensuring. The simple things. We recognize our own is a real thing. So, the tougher route at times is worth it. In the long run, it is a marathon. Not a race. Fast money is great, truly. However, if you earn it fast, you can lose it as fast too. High risk and high reward. A game of sales. & in sales there’s always that one big deal that we remembered that we fumbled. Truly, life is about the journey and learning. We develop at our own pace. Not everyone comes from the same background but the grit between someone that has earned it, is much different than one that was given.
I’ve dated two different types of men before. One: He worked at 9-5 until he was 28. & he realized that he didn’t want to be a slave to society. He made his way into real estate. He owns a McLaren and is in SF 😉 He always told me, whatever you do. Do not do it for free. He never cared about how anyone made their money because a business is a business. Money is money. <<<<——- That is a hustler who made it from grit. Compared to a man who came from money. He will tell you that there’s a “right way” and “wrong way”. He won’t even match your hustle. Most real entrepreneurs, will not care about how you make your money. As long as you make it. They would rather see you win, than see you broke.
I’m learning a lot myself. It’s destructive because I’m trying to tame the hunger and ambition inside of me, knowing well I can make so much money. Compared to having to do things the, “Right way”. I am constantly around successful men for work, and they tell me to hustle and they respect it. It’s truly the reason why I intend to be single because I can’t stand having men control me. So, with the Law of Detachment. I do care anymore, because the more I let things sit and hurt me, it’ll hinder my growth. So, if it’s out of your control then, don’t worry about it. My friend Fuzzy (the reason why I didn’t commit suicide my first attempt in LA) told me in the end, I have myself so hustle hard, keep my clients and pave the way. I’ve never respected a man so much after that.
Thank you, Fuz for saving my life. You had no idea. It was my second month in LA, and I nearly jumped. My fourth month in LA, well.. round 2. Maybe, I’ve learned the art of Detachment a bit too much. Just realize that when you’re scared to let go, it hurts the most. Your conscious mind will be appreciate and react differently when you accept and move on. This is your first step to becoming what I call, “Resilient”.
When you realize pain is all in your mind. You will hold so much power over yourself. The mind is what everyone wants control over. Power is in masses, which includes influences. It is all tied together. Once you control your mind, you are no longer a slave to society. You begin to look past the distractions and superficial aspects of life. Tap into your mind and the Universal laws. For now,
I wanted to introduce to you
THE LAW OF DETACHMENT
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